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Why Do Women Keep Posting Selfies?
They were beautiful the first time they posted it
As I scroll through Facebook, I enjoy looking at the interesting content and photos people post. Yet lately, I’ve noticed there are a lot of people posting selfies — usually women. They are not posting a selfie once, this is an everyday occurrence. After they post a photo, all of their Facebook friends tell them how beautiful they are. A day or two later, there’s another photo of themselves on their page. Wasn’t one photo enough? Is this a thing now?
Yes, I do agree these women look great and I’ll give it a like on Facebook. But why do they need this validation every day? Does no one at home ever compliment them? Am I the only one who feels this way?
They are posting photos of themselves daily. They show off a new haircut or outfit. They pose in a glamour shot. Their girlfriends (and sometimes the occasional lovestruck man) shower them with compliments.
Some of them enjoy posting professional photos repeatedly of themselves posing with their teen daughter.
They get comments like “You look like her twin,” “You look like sisters,” and “You haven’t aged a bit.”
After a while, it grows tiresome. How many times can you tell someone they are beautiful?
It’s one thing to post photos of a fun vacation they had or occasional family photos with their partners and children, but this feels different. It feels like they are fishing for compliments. I don’t see men doing this.
In fact, I’ve never seen a male friend post a photo of himself where everyone commented on how handsome he is. The guys I’ve seen post photos are holding up a fish they caught, sharing a photo of a beer, or playing in their band.
An article in Psychology Today, “Is Posting Selfies Motivated by Narcissism?” by Gwendolyn Seidman, PhD., mentioned studies that revealed that men that frequently post selfies often are linked to narcissism, but not in the case of women.
Women were found to post more selfies than men. A small amount of the frequent posters were narcissists, but most of these women post a lot because of low self-esteem. These women base their self-worth on their appearance. They post…
