This article was spot on. It’s so difficult to be with someone who is so self sacrificing that their entire world revolves around you. Someone who does what you want all the time, even if they secretly don’t want to. Someone who never calls you out when you are being unfair. It’s no fun to be on a pedestal. That isn’t real. I think if the relationship had been more equal, where both partners give and take, it may have worked. It’s not that you didn’t want a nice guy, you just didn’t want to be with a doormat. I get it. There is nothing better than to be with someone who encourages you to be your best self, and grows with you.