People who don’t want children shouldn’t have them. Women should have the life they want. I had 3 girls and a wonderful boy, and a menagerie of pets- and still managed to write, record music, act in community theater, take my children to all their activities, volunteer at cub scouts, St Vincent de Paul, PTA and the music ministry at church, and play in a band. Of course I didn’t do all these things at once! it worked out for me. Love the adults they’ve become.