And it hurt so bad

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When I first met you, your talent blew me away. I couldn’t believe how well you played your guitar and the beautiful songs that flowed out of the strings. We were both musicians and when we played our music together, it was the closest to heaven that I had ever felt.

Finally, someone understood me. Finally, someone noticed my talent too.

As time went on, I noticed how you loved helping people. I watched you help an old man down the street. You bought groceries for the down and out. I thought you were the most wonderful human being in…

Because marriage isn’t for everyone.

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Some people are not wired for marriage. They’d be a lot happier single. Yet they don’t listen. They get married and then spend years living in misery. Because not everyone is meant to get married.

According to “Changing Attitudes Towards Marriage and Single Life,” by A. Thornton and D. Freedman (1982), the single lifestyle is now considered a legitimate option, and most Americans don’t consider the married life better than being single.

Here are the 7 Types of People Who are Happier Single:

Those who believe it’s just a piece of paper

Many people don’t believe in the institution of marriage. To them, it’s just a piece of paper…

These are signs you’re being manipulated.

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No one wants to meet someone, fall in love, and find out the person they have grown to adore is manipulating them. Narcissists are expert manipulators. They are damaged inside, often from a dysfunctional childhood which caused them to create a false identity and bury their true selves, which they loathe. As adults, they seek out empathetic, care-giving, selfless people to help fill the hole that exists deep within them. Your admiration, love, and loyalty are their narcissistic supply. They depend on you to feel good about themselves.

If you are an empathetic person, you may fall under the spell…

Writer, Songwriter, Producer, and Mom

My favorite thing to do. Photo provided by the author.

My name is L.A. Strucke, and not just because I love L.A. They’re my initials.

Early Life

My life began 2 months before my mother’s due date. I had a 50–50 chance to live. My first home was an incubator.

My childhood home was in New Jersey on a cul de sac by beautiful woods. It was a great place to grow up. It would have been idyllic — but then my father died right before my 7th birthday. Because of my early loss, I’ve always been fascinated by the topic of life after this life. I believe our spirits go on.


Don’t fall for that fluffy face with the cool sunglasses

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Do you see that cute fluffy cat that’s living with you? You know, the one with the sunglasses? Watch out. He could be a narcissist. Here’s how to tell.

1. He’s self-centered and craves admiration

Is your cat self-centered? Does he spend his time admiring his new sunglasses in the mirror? Does he expect your whole family to tell him how amazing and adorable he is? Those are classic cat signs of narcissism.

You don’t feed a special cat like this bargain cat food on a paper plate. No. He deserves the best. He expects freshly caught salmon in a china bowl with his name engraved…

Being indecisive can hinder our lives

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Ever feel like your life is out of control? That’s because it is. You are floating on a ship to nowhere. I did the same thing.

I once dreamed of being a writer. I created lots of stories and wrote them in a notebook, but I never sent them out.

I told all my friends I wanted to be a writer, but I never did anything about it.

For most of my life, I felt unhappy that I never pursued my dream. I felt stuck. My ship was going nowhere. …

And choked the joy out of my family

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I want to go back in time
Before death arrived
And choked the joy
Out of my family

To collie dogs and lilac bushes
And magnolia petals
Adorning the driveway
And spearmint springing by the door

Back then an orange cat
Sunned in the window
Watching a butterfly sailing
In my father's garden

Take me back to freshly washed sheets
Running through my clothesline fort
Tangled up in a joyous world
In my happy childhood dance

Want to awake to the sound
Of a lawnmower whirring
Up to my bedroom window
Humming on the breeze

Those Saturday mornings
As I stirred…

And why they shouldn’t let fear stand in their way

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Are you wondering if you should have children? It’s a big decision, one that will change the rest of your life. While some people believe children are a blessing, others think parenthood will ruin their lives. They have all these doomsday scenarios pounding in their head.

Here are 7 excuses people give for not having children.

Excuse number one: The world is going to hell

This is a popular reason a lot of people don’t have children. They said that years ago when I was having them.

“Oh, I can’t possibly bring a child into this horrible world because of..” …

You’re not helping them by doing it all

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If you want the best for your teenager, stop doing everything for them. It’s not helping.

I know some parents who do everything for their teenage children. They wash their laundry, they cook all their meals, they clean their room. They’ve bought them new phones and computers. They’ve gone out and bought their teen a car, and gone into debt to pay for their college education.

Do the teens appreciate this? Sadly, a lot of them don’t. They’ve come to expect their parents to be their own personal Santa Claus.

I’ve watched with a lot of frustration, my dear friend…

So that’s why they always seemed familiar.

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“I knew you before I met you. I’ve known you my whole life.”

― Nayyirah Waheed

Ever meet someone and you feel like you’ve known and loved them forever?

It may be because you have. This person may be a mirror of your parents. I discovered this quite by accident one day while loading the dishwasher.

My partner was getting on my nerves. While I loaded the dishwasher, he rolled his eyes. “You’re doing it all wrong.”

“What are you talking about? It’s fine,” I said.

Then he leaned over and took out all the dishes, cups, spoons and forks…

L.A. Strucke

Writer and songwriter. Interests include music, poetry, art, and all things creative. Editor of The Creative Project.

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