Don’t fall for that fluffy face with the cool sunglasses

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Do you see that cute fluffy cat that’s living with you? You know, the one with the sunglasses? Watch out. He could be a narcissist. Here’s how to tell.

1. He’s self-centered and craves admiration

Is your cat self-centered? Does he spend his time admiring his new sunglasses in the mirror? Does he expect your whole family to tell him how amazing and adorable he is? Those are classic cat signs of narcissism.

You don’t feed a special cat like this bargain cat food on a paper plate. No. He deserves the best. He expects freshly caught salmon in a china bowl with his name engraved…

Walk away and save yourself.

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Think you’re involved with a narcissist? Many people do. If you search the internet you will think everyone is a narcissist. Even though many people have narcissistic traits, true narcissists only make up .5 percent — a small percentage of the population. And 75% of them are men.

Here are seven signs that you’ve entered the frightening world of a narcissist.

1. They are in love with themselves — not you.

Everything they do is to benefit themselves. You are just a means to an end. If they need your help for whatever reason, they will ring up your phone. When you aren’t needed for something, you will not hear…

Your item may be lost — but it’s not gone

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We’ve all lost something — even those perfectly organized people. Unfortunately, some of us are so disorganized we lose things constantly.

The worst is when we lose something that means a lot, like a diamond ring, or a present our partner gave to us.

Many of us will go into panic mode and start frantically pulling things out of drawers, emptying wastebaskets, and freaking out.

Others will fall into despair, thinking they will never see that precious memento ever again. They’ll blame Murphy’s Law and believe they will never find it.

Yet don’t despair. That item we cherish isn’t gone…

Because only you know what’s best for you

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“Come to the party, it will be fun,” said a friend. I didn’t want to go, but I went along with it. That party turned out to be the worst night of my life.

Are there people in your life always telling you what to do? Do you find yourself going along with them and then like me, live to regret it?

We all have people in our lives that think they know what’s best for us. Yet the truth is, we are the only ones that know.

I once had a bad habit of listening to the wrong people…

When you live in the future, and ignore the present

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I once fell in love with this guy. He was amazing. He knew all the names of the constellations in the sky. He could recite the Desiderata. He loved to read books, and knew a lot about science. I thought he was on the path to becoming a doctor someday or a college professor. Unfortunately, I fell madly in love with — an alcoholic.

Yet, I continued to see him, and when he came home drunk and stumbled in the door, I overlooked it. He never did become a college professor. …

And how it helps you deal with life

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Have you met someone who handles the stresses of life with ease? Do you wonder how they became that way? They have the following characteristics of a strong person. If you have these traits, then you are strong too.

They keep their emotions under control

When something bad happens they try to keep calm and don’t get hysterical.

They know that losing control of their emotions during a difficult situation is not in their best interest. They assess each situation that comes up, seek guidance if necessary, and plan their next move.

They wouldn’t dare send an email to someone in a fit of anger. They…

According to their love language.

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Want to do something special for your love on Valentine’s Day? Wondering if you should order some flowers and candy?

Before you call the florist, realize that not everyone wants flowers and candy for Valentine’s Day. They may want and need something more personal from you.

Gary Chapman Ph.D., the author of The 5 Love Languages, shows that everyone has different ways they need to feel loved by their partner. Maybe your partner would rather spend quality time with you, or have you do thoughtful things for them all day. It all depends on what your partner’s love language is.

They were beautiful the first time they posted it

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As I scroll through Facebook, I enjoy looking at the interesting content and photos people post. Yet lately, I’ve noticed there are a lot of people posting selfies — usually women. They are not posting a selfie once, this is an everyday occurrence. After they post a photo, all of their Facebook friends tell them how beautiful they are. A day or two later, there’s another photo of themselves on their page. Wasn’t one photo enough? Is this a thing now?

Yes, I do agree these women look great and I’ll give it a like on Facebook. But why do…

Avoid the ones who bring you misery instead of love.

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Ever been on the end of a phone call where the person you love is screaming at you? Feels terrible, right? If this happens regularly, eventually their negative energy will bring you down.

Here are 6 signs you’re dating a toxic person:

They’re selfish and irresponsible

When you’re dealing with a selfish person, it brings unhappiness to your relationship. Yet research shows that a loving romantic relationship adds to a sense of well-being.

The selfish person focuses on their own needs and ignores yours. They’ll make decisions that affect both of you based on what they want.

You’ll both spend Movie night watching the…

When the love of your life is gone.

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The love of your life is gone. You’ve been walking around in a daze. You can’t believe it happened. One moment they were there with you, the next they were gone.

Everything reminds you of your lost love — songs you shared, places you two visited, and mutual friends. You miss your partner so much. No one gets the pain you’re going through. You feel like you’ll never get over this.

Yet you will. There are millions of people on the planet- and somewhere your match is waiting for you. …

L.A. Strucke

Writer and songwriter. Interests include music, poetry, art, and all things creative. Contributor to numerous publications.

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