Many of us have grown up in dysfunctional childhoods. Not all parents are perfect and love each child equally. Some grow up with adoring parents — but others don’t. It’s painful to grow up watching your sibling be the star of the family, while you were mostly ignored.
Were you less lovable than your sibling? Most likely it had nothing to do with you and everything to do with your parents.
Here are 4 reasons you were not the favorite child:
Sometimes a child is born that has extraordinary looks or talent. This is the child that people can’t stop…
Some people are not wired for marriage. They’d be a lot happier single. Yet they don’t listen. They get married and then spend years living in misery. Because not everyone is meant to get married.
According to “Changing Attitudes Towards Marriage and Single Life,” by A. Thornton and D. Freedman (1982), the single lifestyle is now considered a legitimate option, and most Americans don’t consider the married life better than being single.
Here are the 7 Types of People Who are Happier Single:
Many people don’t believe in the institution of marriage. To them, it’s just a piece of paper…
No one wants to meet someone, fall in love, and find out the person they have grown to adore is manipulating them. Narcissists are expert manipulators. They are damaged inside, often from a dysfunctional childhood which caused them to create a false identity and bury their true selves, which they loathe. As adults, they seek out empathetic, care-giving, selfless people to help fill the hole that exists deep within them. Your admiration, love, and loyalty are their narcissistic supply. They depend on you to feel good about themselves.
If you are an empathetic person, you may fall under the spell…
My name is L.A. Strucke, and not just because I love L.A. They’re my initials.
My life began 2 months before my mother’s due date. I had a 50–50 chance to live. My first home was an incubator.
My childhood home was in New Jersey on a cul de sac by beautiful woods. It was a great place to grow up. It would have been idyllic — but then my father died right before my 7th birthday. Because of my early loss, I’ve always been fascinated by the topic of life after this life. I believe our spirits go on.
Do you see that cute fluffy cat that’s living with you? You know, the one with the sunglasses? Watch out. He could be a narcissist. Here’s how to tell.
Is your cat self-centered? Does he spend his time admiring his new sunglasses in the mirror? Does he expect your whole family to tell him how amazing and adorable he is? Those are classic cat signs of narcissism.
You don’t feed a special cat like this bargain cat food on a paper plate. No. He deserves the best. He expects freshly caught salmon in a china bowl with his name engraved…
We had just had an argument. He told me that if I didn’t do what he wanted, he was going to find another woman who would. It made me feel undesirable and so unloved. How could he threaten to cheat and speak to me like that? It’s a terrible feeling to be verbally and emotionally abused by someone you love.
How do you know when you’re being verbally abused?
When he calls you a bitch, and you start to think that’s normal — that’s verbal abuse.
When he tells you that you’re a fat slob, that’s verbal abuse.
For a long time, she thought her name was, “Lazy good-for-nothing.” That’s what her Mom called her — almost every day. She wondered if her Mom was right. She would rather read a book than clean the house.
One of her most embarrassing memories was of her mother on the phone with friends.
“ My daughter is such a slob. You should see her room — papers and books strewn everywhere. It’s disgusting.”
She overheard those words, and never forgot how they made her feel. She felt embarrassed. She felt unloved. She thought that there was something wrong with her…
Your life is great. You’ve accomplished a long-term goal. You assumed your friends would be happy and excited for you, but they’re not. They reacted as if nothing happened.
You wish your friends were more supportive. Instead, they’re jealous.
Are you surprised? You shouldn’t be. Anyone who achieved success ignites jealousy in other people.
People who follow Madonna know this. Countless people are writing jealous comments under her selfies. They insist she should grow old gracefully and look her age. She shouldn’t have plastic surgery to get rid of wrinkles or flaunt her fit body. It infuriates them that she’s…
Falling in love with a narcissist can be damaging for anyone, but especially for a codependent. While most people recognize unhealthy relationships and move on, codependents often stay in bad situations long after they should.
According to an article in Psychology Today, called “Escaping the Codependent-Narcissistic Trap”, the codependent cares about the narcissist’s feelings and problems more than their own. They’ll neglect themselves because of the narcissist.
Once the codependent realizes they’re never having their needs met…
When you said you loved me
Heaven opened up
Like a scroll unfurling from the sky
And heaven welcomed our love
With a sign
The light streamed upon us
Illuminating your truth
You only saw my flaws
In fear, you fled
The dumpster fire
You said was us
Still blissfully unaware
I danced beneath the sky
My heart alight with joy
My dreams for us
So hopeful and bright
You reached up, blocked
Heaven’s light with your hand
And the sky scrolled back up
And the light went out
And all that remained
Were some sad songs I wrote